In short, my question is more about how to maximize the experience for my wife and to provide her with as much pleasure as I can within the parameters of her request. Any and all suggestions, tips, or advice is appreciated.

We have been together for 15 years and have a pretty active, satisfying sex life. We know each other well which is great but we can make eachother orgasm pretty quickly and that has its benefits and its downsides. She does have a tendency to get sore so we do try to keep limits in mind.

While watching TV together, edging was mentioned and she challenged me to edge her tonight while we mess around. How far should I push things to make it enjoyable for her? We have never done much edging on purpose and I would love to make it a nice evening tonight for her. When is it edging and when is it just delaying the orgasm to help the anticipation build?