M47, recently separated after being with the same person for 22 years. I met a woman who I am very compatible with in terms of our sex drives. We’ve been sexually active for just over a month, with long overnighters. The sex is great, however, for one reason or another I can’t seem to come while I’m inside of her.

I have a few theories as to why this is, but I’m curious what the edging community has to say about it. I’m quite certain it’s psychological. Also, Training. My soon to be ex-wife had a tendency to get UTIs every time I would ejaculate inside of her, I learned not to do that. She also withheld sex, so when I did get it, I would try to make it last as long as possible by holding back from having an orgasm. Now I’m with somebody who really wants it all the time, and for whatever reason I can’t seem to break that habit. Open to any thoughts on this.