There's a trope that comes up in malesub porn sometimes, the guys partner finds out he's into some embarrassing submissive kink, and she goes from hesitant to excited, to all in. Really it works both ways, it's fun to explore her kinks too. I've gone down that path with online partners before, going from "I didn't know people enjoyed that" to "I kind of want to see what it's like" to "how far can I take it?". Edging, and orgasm control/denial can definitely be like that. It's so much fun as a woman goes from "but I want to make you happy by making you cum" to "are you sure it makes you happier when I make you wait a little?" and eventually she gets to "it's so exciting to see how far I can take this, and I know you are loving it".

I enjoy exploring. I like trying things I haven't done in a while, things that were just fantasies, or things I hadn't thought of that my partner fantasizes about. One partner really got into it after I offered to eat my cum if she would let me orgasm, and it got to the point where she did that every time. More recently, a crush threatened to "convert me" to get into her foot fetish. Didn't happen, but I've had a few ideas. Another online partner talked me into wearing panties for her. And so on. A little denial mixed with affection and praise goes a long way towards getting me to humiliate myself.

And winding back to my original thought, my fantasies lately have included you "trying out" ruining my orgasm, building up to wanting to see how many times you can ruin it over time. I want the first one, that's fun. The fifth or sixth, getting into a second week? That would be so frustrating and yet, I still think about it.