After being in too many relationships where I was an afterthought in bed, I started looking for something that would give me the opposite experience. I've been trying to figure out what turns me on, and after a lot of trial and error, here’s what I found:

My biggest turn-on is taking a typically masculine guy and turning him into a slut who’ll do anything for me. That shift from dominant to desperate to please is a huge turn-on. I love the idea of a man finding me so hot that he’ll do whatever it takes to get inside me. But I can’t always have it too easy. I don’t like when a guy is too eager to call me a goddess. I need him to fake it a little. Play it cool. 😭

I also really enjoy being seduced. Watching a man undress, play with his chest, grab his bulge, turn around, and slap his ass for me, those things drive me crazy. Those are some of the things my exes would say no to and not even entertain, so seeing men put this much effort into pleasing me has been magical. I’ve found that most men aren’t great at this, but I love seeing the effort. 😂

Another big thing for me is control. I love dictating everything, from how a guy jerks off to the position and angle. I tell him to keep edging for me and let me know when he’s close so I can finish milking him. They always go crazy.

I also love free-using their bodies, rimming them while I stroke their cocks from behind, then sucking on their balls until everything is completely wet. It feels so good having them at my mercy. Seeing a man’s guard come down and watching him be so vulnerable is such a huge turn-on.

I know there’s a pattern here, and maybe I need therapy to deal with how I've been treated by my exes, but I don’t think I can ever go back to a normal dynamic. I do enjoy being submissive and pleasing my partner occasionally, but it takes a lot of time for me to warm up to that. I need to see how far someone is willing to go to please me before I open up in that way.

And the more effort they put in, the more seductive they are, and the less shame they feel in pleasing me, the wetter I get.

So, I’m looking for someone who fits this description. I usually ask for a photo upfront because attraction is important to me, and I also appreciate a little patience. When I’m not at work, I’m at the gym, so my time can be limited.