Hello! INTP here. I'm fairly new to this system and I'm having trouble typing the types I'm not familliar with.

I gave my mom (53) multiple tests based on functions to get a basic idea (I know tests aren't to be trusted, but I needed to start somewhere because she's very confusing). She scored as ESTJ multiple times. I then read the description to her and she agreed with a good part of it, but I'm still not convinced.

(I'm probably going into stereotypes here, but I barely know anything about this type, so I apologize)

First of all, I was almost sure that she was a feeling type just because how emotional and irrational she can be, especially in comparison with me and my brother (INTP and INTJ). But while she was doing the test, she always ended up choosing thinking over feeling options, especially the ones related to Te.

And now that I think about it, her Te is strong when it comes to her job, I think? She has also been a manager for 15 years and stepped down only because it was too stressful and she got tired of fixing what other people messed up. The thing is, everyone there respects and loves her, and even now they want her to be a manager again. She is both nice and demanding, very annoyed with mistakes but won't punish anyone unless necessary, knows how to do her job but often ranting about those who don't. She's good with everyone but won't be fake nice (says she dislikes those who put on a fake show?).

She loves to be in the right. Often when she tells a story, she needs to pinpoint how the other person told her 'yeah you are right'. She's proud of how rational she is. And now I'm thinking she's probably a thinker indeed, but it's different at home.

She has been a wonderful mom to us. This is where I'm most confused. We lost our dad at very young age so she tried her best for us to live well and she managed it. Both me and my brother made it a standard to do well in school so she hasn't had a chance to be demanding and stern. In fact, she's quite lenient and we get along really well. The only times we fight is when we don't show enough emotion/compassion or when we say something sarcastic or accidentally harsh.

We have it, of course. When my mom is sick or tired, I'm deeply concerned, but I fail at showing it. Then she sulks for hours and I can't communicate it with her. Her usual sentence is (in calm and emotional voice) 'you have to understand me'. She is never hysterical but often has such moments where it's like she's requesting an emotional response. She doesn't have actual arguments, it's just her feelings being hurt. But maybe this is just mom behavior? Or maybe she's lonely? Does it have anything to do with ESTJ?

She has a few good friends but doesn't have much energy to meet them often - she comes home from work tired and doesn't like having guests over for too long. But she likes it when it's people who are very fun or if she hasn't seen them in a while. At those times she's very outgoing and cheerful.

She takes pride in being very independent and says she will never remarry because she would hate it if a man came into our house and started ordering around. She always minds her own business with people unless asked for advice.

She isn't too intellect-oriented or a researcher; she wishes she had a hobby but never starts anything and is pretty stagnant. She is interested in history but won't make active effort to read about it.

I won't make this even longer lol I hope I gave you enough insight to try and confirm that she is an ESTJ or deny it. Thank you in advance!