Hey guys - I've been typed very in depth and accurately as ESFJ with the functions by multiple people and I'm quite confident in my type now. But one thing I read a lot about ESFJs is that they're "very good at reading the emotional environment and able to influence it to make people happy."

Well, I guess I'm a weird ESFJ, because when I do that in the slightest I either get ignored, interrupted, or just straight up shot down, lmao. My family also points out that I'm "terrible at gauging the appropriateness of the situation and thinking about how my actions will affect others," for example that one time when I attempted to climb on the table and take a video of us all cheering and holding our drinks up, but then instead I practically got yanked down and kicked out of the restaurant. The video turned out as a one second long blur btw.

My intentions are Fe, but it's weird because I'm actually quite bad at it. I'm far from a social butterfly unless you count randomly sending people friend requests on discord.

Can anyone else relate? I'm pretty good with details and consistently test as a high sensor, and I line up pretty well with the socionics quadra values too. Cognitive function wise, I'm pretty sure I'm ESFJ, but I wanted to get that off my chest too. Am I alone?