I recently found out that I'm not an ESFP or ENFP, as long as I thought I had dominant Se justifying it as "taking things as it is," it also came with a whole other set of traits that I don't relate to in the slightest, including things like being assertive, concerned with aesthetics, and great at taking charge,, and this kind of thing has been popping up everywhere, and has been following me around for as long as I can remember. You can clearly see me trying to overlook these for a long time, but after awhile it starts to feel like I'm forcing a puzzle piece. It came down to, if I'm not an ESFP, then I'm not an ESFP.

After being lowkey rejected by ESFPs, I figured I was ENFP, especially with posts like this, and posts like this, and posts like this, lmao. But then I go and read about dominant Ne and intuition in general...

... it sends my running for my dear S.

My cognition simply isn't dominant Ne. I'm not constantly shooting out ideas or having hunches while drowning in possibilities,

Where are y'all seeing the intuition?? LMAO

So I found a good middle ground at ESFJ - And to confirm it, I was verified over a video chat and got typed as an obvious ESFJ, and ESFJ pretty much accounts for everything. My massive Si tendincies I'm always talking about, the resteraunt stuff and the nostalgic recalling dates from the past, and I tend to base my descisions off the past too, like if I knew that this particular resteraunt has some nasty broken soda mechine, I won't order soda there, things like that. ESFJ also has Ne, just not dominant, but it's there enough to explain why I kept getting barraged with ENFP typings lol. And the inferior Ti would explain why I'm pretty bad at logical consistency, people have pointed that out to me a lot too.

But about the Fe. People have pointed out that in my questionnaires I mention appreciating a good social atomosphere, that's lively, cheerful and accepting, and accepts me for who I am, and it sounds very Fe. Wanting to interact with people especially on discord, caring about twitter followers, wanting to be chill and not control anybody - sounds like Fe.

But the thing I don't relate to, is Fe being good at creating social circles, reading the room, being good with social cues, and being well liked by most. I am a cringelord for crying out loud, ever since elementary school I've been kind of lowkey outcasted, because I'd always overdo it with expressing my obsessions or meme references or whatever. My family also gets on my ass a LOT about acting socially inappropriate, and I've actually been banned from some places. I'm trying to work on that, but my point is it doesn't come naturally, like a dominant function should. I'm far from a popular social butterfly, the closest thing I'll be to that is typology discord lmao. I believe that everyone has the right to live their life their own way, we're not here to control each other, nobody is less than as a human, the world (especially cities haha) is a beautiful place, and I see no need for social games, gaslighting or any form of malicious manipulation, I just want to live my life with people I love and do what I love. Does this support or go against Fe? They seem to be very big traits, just like how Se dom have these big traits, and I would just like to know if it's that big of a deal to worry about, or if they actually end up supporting my type.

Edit: I just want to say, that I really do respect and trust everybody's analysis here, I appreciate all of it and I don't want to seem like I'm disregarding anybody's opinion. I hope I didn't come off as 'screw everyone' on this post, I'm just a bit confused atm.

(Also if this post doesn't belong on this sub, let me know and I'll happily delete it)