I find i get into some conflict or relationship situations with introvert guys and then they will just selectively ignore what im saying, or even block me in some cases. This has happened with an ex when i asked him to buy flowers for our daughter for example,which he said he would do, but i would keep reminding him every few weeks and then he blocked me there and unblocked me later. He has me blocked on 1 platform instead of 2, and he has always threatened to block me on all even tho he owes support for our child.

Recently I started talking to a guy i met online via a dating site
about 12 days ago. On day 2 he called me by video. Then he proceeded to call me every night and we talked for 1-2 hrs at a time. And then he was also saying good morning and good night beautiful etc everyday and messaging about his day. Well then on Saturday afternoon ie last weekend, after 2pm i had messaged and he didnt check anything for the whole day. But i could see him logging in via FB since it shows when people are last active. He logged in at least a couple of times.

So about 6pm i asked him why he isnt responding and if hes busy, because it looks like he has been online.

The next morning he told me sorry for last night and good morning(without the "beautiful", without the usual romanticness in his message). And said he crash out and mostly slept.

So i was commenting on how it shows hes been online and he said it must be becauae FB is on his browser and he still checked his phone sometimes.

He said he is replying slowly because the notifications are not working at all.

And then msged a bit in the same morning and i asked if we could call after he gyms and he said sure.

And then i msged something at 2pm, i just said we could also chat earlier cos he wanted to sleep earlier, and then again heard nothing. And it was getting more distressing cos its already night and he still didnt say when hes back from the gym or anything at all. Then I proceeded to say he is not talking to me the same way anymore, mentioning the good morning thing, and that he seems distant, and even if his phone notifications didnt work he could still check. Later i added that i usually dont mind people taking a while to message back, but that we were talking more before and that it suddenly stopped, and that i would rather him just tell me why he is avoiding my msgs.

And then this morning i heard nothing, and i added that he lied to me, because he cant have been sleeping the whole day on Saturday (plus already knew by his own claim that he checked his phone sometimes on that day), and that he prob doesnt care if he doesnt even say goodnight or goodmorning and prob started talking to or seeing another girl. And that i really liked him (in past tense) so it hurts.

He is an introvert INFJ so this is prob like a braindump that introverts dont like, and maybe i shouldnt insinuate hes interested in other women... but it sure felt like only reasonable explanation for ignoring me and deromanticising his messages.

I was dying a bit inside and the only way I found to help it heal is to just tell him (or anyone im in a relationship or friendship with) exactly what im thinking, which creates sometimes tense conversations if the other person is easy to anger.

I dont know, i would always rather be truthful than die from the inside. But i guess noone does this in society on a whole. People keep alot of stuff inside, and just ignore and ghost. I have sometimes done that also for men i havent really talked to before. But not someone who im communicating with this intensely like 1hr phone call a day for 10 consecutive days... Yeah i feel hurt by it. I could have waited to see if he would do something on his own accord or get back on track, but the hurting inside is actually harder than just getting it out and just finding another guy. I have a much easier time just standing up for myself than keep giving benefit of the doubt before i become someone's doormat.

I still dont like behaviour that abruptly changes but i find thats what many people are actually like.

I dont know if theres a cure for what im doing, other than more patience and benefit of the doubt but then it wrecks my sleep and health so i cant go to sleep like being stabbed in the heart like that, or depressed, and i would rather pull the spear out and throw it back.

With some friends, i have not confronted and just stopped contacting them when their behaviour change. One time i ghosted a friend for never doing what she said she would and never reaching out to ask about me.