I’ve shared this idea in a few other places, but for those of you who are early in the stages of your Hotwife journey, here is a early step my HW and I took that was rather effective and a lot of fun.

After the talk about the desire for her to have the freedom outside of the bounds of our marriage, the next thing I did was place a symbolic condom in her purse.

We jokingly called in the secret zipper. It was there. She carried it with her. I checked on it. So did she. It was a symbol of her new freedom, and with it, only one stipulation: that she tell me if she was going to use it, before if possible.

Every text I got…was it the one?

The knowledge she could, any time she wanted.

It threw things into overdrive for us. Communication. Connection. Honesty. Huge spike in our intimacy.

And it lead us further, to where we are now.

Highly, highly recommend it. :)