I did EMDR two years ago on unresolved trauma. It unleashed a total reprocessing of my entire life. I experienced years of grief over the course of a few months. Suddenly, the notion of inviting toxic people into my life became a red flag instead of green. It felt much like I had inherited someone else's life and just had to deal with it.

In my sexual history, I would never let a female orally please me. She could try, but never would i have an orgasm. Yes, it was a control issue. It didn't seem like it at the time. When I masturbated, I mostly fantasized about pleasing the female; not so much myself.

So, I was practicing some self love and self gratification this morning. I fantasized about a lady that I have been getting close with. It was different from anything that I have experienced before. Not only did I fantasize about her, I fantasized about her orally gratifying me. It was something that I really didn't think I wanted or liked. But now, the idea of letting her love and please me is very desirable.

Has anyone else noticed changes in sexual interests? This seems like a positive experience and healthy growth.