I have like...A LIST of thing that I'm guessing is not normal, like ...I found out the next year that putting your child in your room and close it with the key/pushing all your body on the door so it's blocked is not a normal way to handle a child tantrum...and that's was all the punishment I've got until my parents were able to do it (the last time I was 16 ish) they didn't want to deal with me (or my sister) so they lock the bedroom door, problem solved. Until LAST MONTH I thought that let me crying on a beach at 4 yo because I couldn't find my parents anymore was a hard punishment but a good way to educate me to not go to far, cause...you know, they watched me struggling and getting more desperate but they were watching right? And my dad showed up at some point...so...it was right in my mind. I discovered that me crying over a bug I couldn't find anymore at 2-3 yo wasn't a good reason to return home from a little vacation because my dad was made at me so I basically ruined it. So...with this in mind can someone tell me if having a tantrum as a kid in a shopping center is a good reason for bringing me out and said: "everyone was looking at you, you were a shaming to me, I am ashamed of you and your behavior" that's something "ok" to say to a kid? I really don't know, I don't know what was normal and healthy and what was absolutely or barely wrong.