Hey everyone. I never thought I’d be making a post like this but I want to get an outside perspective. My gf (41f) and I (41m) work for the same paper supply company. I am a salesperson and she is the HR rep. We are located at one of the branches in New Hampshire, but our company has branches all over the northeastern US.

My gf who I’ll call ‘H’ was recently transferred to a branch in Pennsylvania temporarily which is about a five and a half hour drive away.

H used to work at this branch and had a brief but serious relationship with the manager there. We will refer to him as ‘M’ he is a 47m. M has basically not left H alone since she was transferred to my branch and they broke up. He still sends her texts and messages of weird memes and YouTube videos that H finds hilarious but I think are kind of annoying. H insists that they’re just friends and while I trust H completely, I think M still has very strong feelings for her.

I wasn’t entirely comfortable with the transfer and we tried to push back on it, but the new owner was insistent. One thing that we do at night is we will call each other and chat for an hour or two about our day. A couple of days ago H mentioned that one of the salesman at the branch she’s at now was hosting a seminar to try to engage a wider client base.

The manager of her branch was going to sit in as well and pretend to want to buy the program the salesman was selling to try to get other people to buy it as well. Which I’m not even sure what the program is, even after H explained it to me. Anyway, M ran an idea by H to pretend to be a married couple from Greece? Or something. I don’t know. It was confusing to me but she thought it was really funny.

The casual way she told me about it still bothers me. Anyway, I got upset that she was pretending to be married to her ex. What does she mean pretended? What happened? Did they hold hands? Cuddle? Did they kiss? This whole situation to me is inappropriate at best and cheating at worst.

H got upset and told me it was just two friends messing around and nothing more. She told me she loves me and has completely moved on from M and I have nothing to worry about. But I still don’t know. We’ve had two long conversations about it and while she has apologized she still maintains that I am making too big a deal out of it.

Anyway, AITAH for being upset about what H did?