Hello,

I created this community in response to a thread on BDSMadvice where a Dom-less sub asked for some encouragement before a job interview. The thread seemed to get a lot of positive feedback from subs who could use a little support. I thought a dedicated sub-reddit would be fun/useful.

I will try to respond to each request as time allows. Other Dom/mes may respond. I will moderate as best I can. Creepy, overly familiar, trying pick people up, and any sense that someone is preying on the vulnerable will be deleted and offenders blocked as needed.

I very specifically want subs who are looking for a bit of wholesome support to not feel harassed or feel like anyone's trying to take advantage.

Some basic rules:

• This is a place for brief supportive comments not anything resembling therapy or serious interventions.
• Make your request pretty simple. I'm intending for support to be primarily around real life stuff, not kinky or sexual stuff.
• Titles (slave, girl, little one, etc.) or endearments (dear, honey, love) will not be used unless you specifically say how you want to be referred to.
  
• My intention is for pep talks to usually offer encouragement rather than very specific directions. Neither I nor the Dom/mes answering are your Dominant. I personally think it’s inappropriate to give extensive directions to someone I’m not involved with. I feel likewise about accountability structures. I’ll ask for a general update, but I’m not going expect detailed ongoing reports. I’m certainly not going to set punishments (other than clearly playful/wholesome ones) for failures to meet goals. See above on not being your Dom.
• My goal is to provide a bit of support to subs who need a bit of help. I readily admit I enjoy being supportive, but my intention is for my responses to be non-sexual and not particularly kinky.
• I will eliminate comments that seem rude, intentionally unhelpful, discriminatory, predatory, etc.
• Requests for a little pep talk can come from any sub regardless of sex, gender identity or expression, sexual orientation, race, religion, relationship status, etc. Basically, I don't care what you look like, what your background is, or who or how you love. Just trying to be helpful. Dominants of all types are welcome as long as they are genuinely supportive, not-creepy or inappropriate, etc.
• This is a work in progress. Rules and other elements may change. I'm just trying this out to see if it's helpful and fun. It's my first time as a mod and doing anything like this. Be kind, be patient. Thanks.