I met a Dom on a BDSM dating app two weeks ago and we hit it off really well. We met in person last Thursday and (I thought) both had a great time. He kissed me after he walked me to my car and told me I was a good kisser. Then we talked all the next day. I warned him that I was seeing my boyfriend over the weekend so I wouldn't be online, but that I'd be back on Monday.

Monday morning I messaged him good morning. No response. Messaged him yesterday and asked if he wanted another date or if we should part ways. No response. Today I went to the app to block him and move on, only to discover he had already blocked or unmatched me. So this was intentional, he didn't just get busy or something.

I'm devastated. We had even filled out a contract for our kink relationship! He gave me every indication that he was interested, we had good chemistry (I thought), we had a good overlap of kink interests. We were both clear that neither of us was interested in romance, just kink. I just feel so hurt. Why the fuck did he treat me like I'm disposable? What happened???

I'm on a dynamic break with my regular Dom for some complicated reasons, so I had really put a lot of hope in being able to participate in kink again and have some fun. I miss pain play, being humiliated, being praised. My hope in finding someone else to play with has pretty much vanished completely. I've been looking for months, posting in local FetLife ISO groups, etc. and all I've gotten is trash.

I'm obviously throwing a huge pity party for myself. Any encouragement you can provide would be much appreciated. I am fine with good girl, kitten, sweetheart, etc. my only limit with terms of endearment is no babygirl. Thank you 💜