TL:DR Read the rules especially #3. No asking for or soliciting DMs from the subs. If you can't say it in public maybe you ought not be saying it. This is not a place to pick people up. The safety of this community is my highest priority. I will warn and/or ban "Doms" who violate this rule.

I also expect the "Doms" to be actual, y'know, Dominants who have experience in D/s and participate in the real and Reddit kink communities in healthy ways. This isn't intended as a place for the general public.

And subs should not encourage inappropriate behaviour. Submissives who do so can be banned as well.

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Our little community has grown a bit lately. This is great.

I've noticed an increase in the number of "Doms" replying. This can also be good.

I use quotation marks because some of these folks show no participation in the serious kink community on Reddit (by serious I mean participation in subreddits like r/bdsmadvice or r/bdsmcommunity).

This concerns me.

This is not meant as a space for the general public who don't understand or participate in D/s or kink. It's not a general advice subreddit--though 95% of the advice is vanilla.

The intention is for submissives to connect, in a friendly way, with Dominants who offer support and encouragement within good boundaries with a little Dom energy thrown in as appropriate.

My main issue, however, is a couple of "Doms" who have either expressly said they've sent or seem to be encouraging DMs.

This violates rule #3 of our community.

Keeping the support and advice offered public helps create the safety and transparency that is critical for this little project to work.

Just to offer a recent example, what exactly about normal vanilla task management could possibly need to be sent via DM? I don't know the content of the DM, whether it's appropriate or not, potentially tryng to pick up or take advantage of the sub, etc. It might well have been absolutely fine--but taking a very vanilla conversation private makes me wonder.

Yes, the subs involved can set their own boundaries including asking me and the other mods to step in and ban someone, but I think this falls on the "Doms" to manage.

I try to keep up with posts and trust my fellow mods to do the same so we can catch such problems. I've removed some comments and warned a few Doms. I don't have time or interest in doing much of this so I will likely just ban people.

I'll note that submissives need to support this community as well by not encouraging inappropriate behaviour. If you choose to DM with someone that is up to you, but please don't encourage or ask for it in the public space. I will warn and ban subs as well.

I think this space feels special to a number of folks, especially the subs who need that safety. It's up to all of us to create and support this together. All D/s is a partnership, kink requires good communication. This space is no exception. Please speak up if there is a problem.

Thanks.