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Announced that I’d be divorcing my stbx about 5 weeks ago. Left with essentially nothing and haven’t returned to the house other than to get my kid for visitations. Got a lawyer immediately and got my own apartment. The ex has been very very amacable. Which I really don’t understand. When I was with her she was such an angry angry person. She would often fly off the handle at the littlest thing. Now she’s acting completely normal and happy and supportive.
That said she’s very against all of this and doesn’t want to get divorced. She does seem to be accepting it though as she’s also retained an attorney.
Does anyone else have any experience with an ex starting out amacable? How did it go? How did you keep it amacable or how did it fall apart?
Very rarely does this last. She’s either waiting to pounce at the opportune moment. Trying to gather something to use against you. Or, you have not hit her trigger point.
My ex hid multiple affairs and wanted to wait until after the divorce to hit me with that knowledge thinking it would break me. I had always suspected but could never prove the affairs. Once I had that, her trigger point was me taking the evidence to my lawyer and using it to expose her lies. It was nuclear war after that.
Tread lightly because she’s going to pop. It’s just a matter of when.
It’s weird at first. I had a few dates here and there but nothing was really working. I told my kids I was just going to focus on getting them through school and then maybe try again.
It’s when I was at peace with being by myself that I finally was happy and able to meet someone really great.
Don’t rush dating. Get settled and find that peace. Be willing to go outside your comfort zone to meet people. Not in a million years would I have thought I’d get a number at the grocery store.
Married 16 years. I filed. I have 100% sole custody. No support of any kind. Definitely didn’t want to fix it. Life after is great. Found someone better and have been married for a few years now.
Two kids. Always suspected, but I couldn’t prove anything. My youngest finally came forward and admitted that her last sports camp was BS. Her mom dumped her at a hotel with a friend while she cheated in the next room.
Watch how they hide their phone. Listen for the sound of the voice on the other side. Look for lingerie or outfits you haven’t seen. Watch the odd charges on the bank account. Changes in normal behavior patterns. New friends. Anything that is out of character.
I started going back over the entire time we were married and she had been cheating from the time we started dating. I’m pretty sure I was someone she cheated with on another guy.
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Long story but she basically accused me of things that were not true and it went in front of a judge. I had evidence to prove she lied. The judge gave me 100% custody. My current wife and I met at a grocery store and it just went from there.