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Dating: How important is attractiveness?
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For those who found happiness in a new relationship (remarried or 5yr ) do you look at your partner and think "ooohhhhh damn, is she pretty"? Or is her attractiveness high due to the whole package she brings?

I'm concerned that post divorce I'm placing to much pressure on looks. It could be overcompensation since while I found my ex attractive, I never felt oh damn feeling.

As I navigate the sea of sameness in the apps those women are FEW and far between. I see many women who appear to be a perfect mental match but I only find them "cute" and I'm concerned I'm missing out on a connection because I'm being shallow

Ive had a few 6mth relationships with women who I found cute but that "rip your clothes off" lust never materialized.

Curious if I'm being to critical/shallow and missing out on happiness, or if its a sign that I just haven't found the one yet.

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My ex let herself go through our marriage. She was okay but there was a point that I realized she was no longer the type of woman I would approach “at a bar”. I’ve been remarried for almost 6 years. My wife and I have maintained an excellent sex life and I have found that sexy is more than looks, it’s a mindset. She is that total package. She can be as girly as they come or belch and talk football with the guys. No matter the situation she is sexy while doing it. The weird part for me is that she sees me in that same light.

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8 months ago