So the decision has been made in my mind. I am going to seek out a divorce. I am terrified though. I want to prioritize her continuing to homeschool our son. I want her to stay in the house (probably, she may not want to but I thinknshe will), and am hoping for 50/50 custody. I know she will react poorly when I talk to her, but I am hopeful we can focus on our son and his needs.

Here's where I struggle - I can't afford both my own place and our mortgage. She doesn't earn enough to support herself. Since I am very focused on maintaining stability for our neurodivergent son, I want her to maintain how she is. I know she may have to do some part time work, and that's a bridge to cross. But thinking about the complexities it is easy for me to question my decision, to have doubts if I am doing the right thing.

For once in my life I have reached the realization I deserve happiness and my son deserves to see me be happy. But, knowing how much strain this will put on him and her it makes me doubt. Who went through similar? What did you do? How did you figure it out? Any help is appreciated.