All, Just looking for like advice and steps Things haven't been right for a while, she ended things kind of out of the blue on NYD after I'd been at work. The signs were there, guess I ignored them. Don't know if she's got someone else, but trying to not let that eat me up inside.

2kids both young U7.

She basically ended things but doesn't know what long term looks like. I'm not niave here she does but isn't playing her cards, which it is what it is. I've already seen a solicitor, I'm in the process of reviewing finances to see what my longer term outlook is.

Looking to fight for 50/50 and as close to on the settlement (hopefully out of court)

Problem is she wants to work this schedule that I just don't agree with Day on day off 2 days on 2 days off day on day off..(pretty much) Which is messy for everyone especially the kids. This is all to suit her and her life, her work her want for every other weekend to go and do what she wants to do.

What about everyone else involved here. I'm concerned my kids will be so confused and messed up with it. My eldest has autism (low grade) And then I'm basically a babysitter to fit her life.

(Not downplaying my role) I love my kids more than anything in the world and I'd gladly take them as sole carer, but that's not fair on them.

I'm hoping in time they'll see that despite my shortcomings this isn't totally on me.

Anyway, I got to tell the kids later that mummy and daddy aren't together anymore. And it breaks me inside that I feel like I failed them to provide the home they should have had.

I guess I'm just a bit stuck and confused, I know I have to put a brave face on, I know I have to be cold towards her and look out myself and my kids.

I can't do this on off stuff above for long. I just want to be alone and move on you know.

I'm trying to show willing and accommodate but it's not good.

I mean I don't even know what advice to ask you guys for. But any tips or stuff that can help.

UK based.