Been separated for 7 months and living apart since august. Two young kids, 4 and 7. She left because “she wasn’t happy.” We discussed our Christmas arrangements and this year I would be having the kid’s Christmas morning. I invited her over for brunch because I felt the kids need to see both of us Christmas morning. That was a hard no on her part. Said it would be too confusing for the kids. Came up with another arrangement. A few weeks later she asked to talk ( I know she’s seeing someone so I went in expecting the worst) turns out she wants to do Christmas together to ease the kids into the new life. I agreed with what she suggested. Now doing it at her place. She invited me to stay the night Christmas Eve but I doubt that’ll happen. How does everyone feel about spending Christmas together? While I originally agreed I am having second thoughts. I feel like no matter how much we explain it to the kids they’ll get their hopes up. I also feel by being together it’ll set me back emotionally.

She also called me a few weeks Ago about switching our weekend rotation with the kids and me possibly having the kids 3 weekends a month. I refused this because the schedule she created was working for me. I also felt that by me taking the kids 3 weekends a month limits my time to have a personal life. She didn’t come out and say this but I stitched together the fact that the guys she’s seeing has opposite weekends than she does. She’s been getting babysitters and sending the kids to her parents place on her weekends with the kids. My personal life is going nowhere and I’m on the fence about just giving in to her so she can be “ happy.”