My ex-wife and I called it quits in April 2022 after 23 years of marriage. I was unfaithful many times and took shared money for my indiscretions. I've taken responsibility and I know I'll never be able to apologize enough. And we share an almost 17 year old son. A couple of things regarding him have come up the last week that I tried to talk to her about and the answers I got was figure it out yourself. Now I know she's mad as hell because among other things in her mind I don't send her enough money to help cover our son's expenses. I should say he goes to a hockey boarding school. My ex earns more than 200k a year and I make 54k. I live in the Boston burbs and she lives in the Washington DC suburbs. Both expensive places to live. But I'm barely keeping my head above water and sending her as much as I can. We don't have any official support agreement and we both agreed he should live with her when he's not at school because it's the only house he's ever known. I can see him whenever I want to and he can stay with me during school breaks if he wants to. She also refused to do divorce mediation or lawyers or anything that might have made these issues, i.e. money more structured. She just wanted the divorce as quickly as possible. I'm not really looking for advice or guidance. I just needed to vent. From the divorce in April through 2022 we were able to be cordial to each other and we even took our son out for meals. Now, she refuses to even say hello when we see each other at our son's hockey games. And we're both going to be moving him back to school and she's made it clear she won't join me and my son for dinner. We've got 2 more high school years and then college that we'll have to financially take care of him. I just want to tell her to go to hell and this is why we needed mediation. Anyway, thanks for listening. Everybody keep the faith.