Hi all,

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So the ex and I are going through our divorce but nothing is final and no custody has been agreed or proposed. We are working it out, slowly. We currently still live in the martial house and things are beyond stressful and tense.

She goes shopping under the impression that shes shopping for herself. She comes back with a weeks worth of groceries for both herself and our daughter without my knowledge. She continues to shop 100% organic which tends to be rather expensive. Shes refusing to discuss with me about setting a budget for groceries and thus keeping control in her own hands.

How do I take control back? I want whats best for our daughter but I dont want to spend money at her discretion only.

The logical response is for me to go shopping with her, the problem there is that she goes while Im at work or while Im asleep as we work different schedules.

Help me please, I need to word an email to her that will help me without making me a terrible dad in the eyes of the court.