I couldn’t be more positive my wife wants a divorce. She has been at the devaluing phase for over two years, which has started rubbing off on my son. I have been painted as the evil parent, husband, neighbor, friend, and all around bad person. I can’t live like this anymore and taking my own life has never been on my mind so much lately. I would gladly take the coward way out but the damage I know it will do to my son is all that holds me back. I remember my life before and it was amazing, little did I know what was really going on. 10 years I gave her every paycheck, I never cheated, I never beat her. I was so dumb for putting my trust into a heartless, manipulative, thief. I’m so dumb I stayed even after finding out everything I have, offered forgiveness all without her asking to be forgiven. She wiped out my savings, destroyed so many relationships with friends and family, pushed me as hard as she could to give up my dreams, and that isn’t what has done it. She uses my kid as a tool to hurt me and it is mainly damaging him. The things I have pushed for kid have all been healthy, physical activity like riding dirtbikes or playing sports but she has in ever so slightly ways damaged all of it. Well I think I have had enough, giving her separation papers for Christmas. I was going to wait until our 13th anniversary 20 days after Christmas but I can’t take it any longer. I plan on her normal Christmas games where she puts on a big show followed by something to ruin the holiday. When she does this I’m just going to let her play it all out, wait until my kid is in bed that night and then hand her an envelope. All I plan to say is this. You have told me how I am the cause of all your problems, figured giving you the gift of ending that couldn’t be more thoughtful.