Greetings Brothers,

33M here - nearing the final few weeks of divorce, but have been separated since July of last year.

My wife's parents both passed away a few years back and the trauma & grief of that situation tore us apart and unfortunately she started to abuse alcohol, marijuana, anorexia, and eventually meeting other men. She made the decision to leave the marriage on 7/3/23.

Since the separation, i've moved across the country to a small city where i've done a ton of things to find peace, health, and stability.

I'm in therapy weekly (one year straight), I work out daily, practice yoga, eat clean, stopped drinking, picked up a few hobbies like photography and water coloring.

My career is great, my finances are on the rise even after divorce fees, I have close friends (though distant), and when I want i've been able to find intimacy/connection in a healthy way with other females.

Though with all that being said, I still find myself falling into the "woe is me" trap, where I cry and scoff at my misfortune i've wound up in.

Has anybody else experienced this state? What has gotten you out of it?

Sometimes I feel like I need to be absolutely bodied in a boxing ring or humbled by a jiu-jitsu master to shake myself from this victim mindset.