Me(24) and my wife (30) have been married for 3 years. I’m in the air force and we have a 3 year old daughter. We constantly have argued about values and beliefs and once I start to say my peace it’s often me apologizing for speaking on how I feel. And I got to a point where ever since our daughter was born we haven’t been intimate since. She is a SAHM so me bringing up divorce will come off to her like I’m throwing her to the wolves. But how can I reassure her that I really want us to be parents for our daughter but I don’t feel like together we are fit for this marriage ? How do I prepare for that and the aftermath of bringing it up because once I say it there’s no going back ? How can I resolve this in a way where it’s amicable for our daughter not to see us argue anymore. I mean we live in 2 different bedrooms. What’s the best course for this to not come off like I want to just chuck her to the fields? Because she is the mother of my daughter and I will always have that care for her ?