Of course there is a long lead up to this but I can save you all that. The short version is I found her very sexually explicit texts to her “friend” this morning. I’m a complete mess and I don’t know where to go from here. I need to get divorced. It just doesn’t seem real but it is and I knew it was going to happen. I’m furious and sad and feel like the biggest fool in the world. We’ve been together 18 years. Married with 4 kids and a house. What do I even do now. I haven’t said anything to her yet. I’m not sure if I should contact a lawyer first or separate our finances before telling her? Of course I don’t have much money either. What the hell to I tell the kids.. I can’t even finish writing this without crying. I have a therapy appointment already scheduled for next week. I need advice.