I am not sure where to start but in short over the past 3 years the small business my wife began has caused increasing tension between us and I feel like I might be at the end.

She began this business hardly even consulting with me and she seems to have few realistic plans for it other than "becoming a millionaire". This business began 3 years ago with her taking money from our mutual checking account, without asking, to rent space for the business. Even though she returned the money it would be a sign of things to come in terms of financial honesty or lack there of. Over the past few years I have watched her spend more and more time on this business. I often go to bed early as I get up very early in the morning and will be asleep before she comes home most nights. We typically might eat dinner together once a week. I fell I then get stuck doing most of the household chores, like cleaning, taking care of our pets and managing our finances.

I would be less frustrated with this time commitment if it appeared as if the business was succeeding however I don't think this to be the case. Currently she brings home about $1000 a month which even combined with my fairly decent salary is only just getting us by in New York City. She doesn't really tell me what she's doing on the business end except for the bits and pieces I try to get out of her but clearly things aren't working out if she's committing almost 90 hours a week to it and only bringing home $1000 a month. Last week we got a tax bill for almost $3,000 and she didn't even give me the time to discuss it with me because I think she just assumes the money is there even though I've told her many times that money is tight.

Over the past few months she has began working with my brother who has extensive knowledge in running and managing a business so I've gained some more insights through him. He's basically relayed to me that her cash flow and money management is a mess and she has insane overhead because she's trying to expand to fast, all resulting in the low take-home every month. The frustrating part though is that she won't listen to anyone besides herself and the few employees (her friends) who work for her and yes her on. I am now getting worried because my brother is getting frustrated working with her because she's stubborn as a mule and doesn't take any of his advice and keeps doubling down on her own idiotic ideas and delusions of grandeur. If he stops working with her I will really have little to no insight on what's going on and there will be no one with any expertise to guide her in the right direction. Her making mistakes doesn't make me angry, its the fact that she won't listen to anyones advice.

I am honestly not sure what to do anymore, we've had multiple discussions about this over the years. I've told her how I want to know more about what is going on, I've told her that I want her to consult with me before she makes major business decisions however all of my words seem to go in one ear and out the other. I still love her, I admire her work ethic but I feel like she is wasting time and jeopardizing both of out financial futures. Unfortunately, my objections to her bad ideas are seen as me being the "no man" and "holding her back" so I am really not sure if there is a solution to any of this other than divorce.