So I’m on mobile so forgive me .

My wife (28) me (29) have been together for 14 years married 3. Yes since we where kids. She has cheated on my in the past and 5 years ago we split for 3 months and when we got back together we decided to start our adult relationship. She left me again in January 2022. There is so much to are story not sure if I can even fit it all here. I have done everything for her she had no family really. My family took her in taught her to drive, drove her to college. I started working when I was 15 to pay for clothes and food for her cause her family couldn’t. Long story short she left me the same exact way both times . Each time for a job in august got all these new friends and then left in January cause “she doesn’t know who she is” and a ton of other stuff. I’m not perfect no one is but I’ve never done anything to hurt her. I’m literally gonna be thirty this year and I’ve never been with anyone else. I know this is r/divorce so I’m just asking idk what to do every time I ask her if she wants to divorce she says no so I feel like she is kind of playing both sides cause she knows I will always be here while she was already with someone days or a week after she left. She has a lot of trauma from her past which I think causes all of this as she has never had someone who loved her like I do and I think that scares her. She keeps saying she is letting me go so she doesn’t hurt me. That she doesn’t know how to love me the way that i love her.

Maybe this is the wrong place if so delete I’m just trying to look for some guidance / outside opinions on if I should just get a divorce .