Hi first time posting. Im 31, we are just starting the divorce stuff. We have been together around 16yrs and married for between 11 and 12yrs no human kids involved. We own the home. STBX has always been the bread winner but we have both worked full time for the majority of the relationship.

We decided together that this is what we need. Now my STBX is moving everything around the house...which is a huge house. To accommodate them. Which is throwing the pets routine and structure out the window. STBX is just doing things to make everything harder for me. Tonight is the first night since we decided this that I have wanted to just cry. Im hurt and angry because I wouldnt be doing this stuff to them. I feel I have always been the adult, rolled with the punches, and been responsible. Im tired of it. We had said let's make this as Is amlikable as possible. But now it seems they just want to do what they can to make this hard on me and the pets involved. I don't know what to do in this case I understand that they can do what they feel they need to do. As far as I know I'm the only one that has sought any legal advice and I had a free consultation. And I'm fully aware that if I go with the lawyer that they represent me and that They have the opportunity to get their own lawyer. Does this ever get easier as it goes on or does it just get harder and more petty we have 2 of everything so dividing our personal property will be easy. But it's the whole house situation that will be difficult.. I don't want us to fight each other I just want us to go our separate ways and both of us to be happy in whatever we do after this.