STBXH (34M) announced he wanted to leave me (38F) 5 months ago. He actually announced this on a Thursday and said he was going to live with his mom for 2 months the following day after work on Friday. A World War III-type argument then ensued, involving me packing his stuff and putting it in his vehicle, expediting his planned exit to the current day, which was when he made the announcement. This was the 3rd threat to leave/divorce in 22 months, so at this point, I was like, just take your stuff with you and go. We then tried to work on things for another 2 months after he had left, but to no avail. Although, "work" consisted of me giving in to his requests, not actually compromising on anything. There was no abuse, infidelity, or major issues like that on either of our parts. Husband has history of depression, takes antidepressant meds, makes poor decisions, and I think is very immature and confused about life and how to treat women. I am not a hard to get along with woman, and I did everything I could do to try to compromise, work together, and save our marriage. He wanted out and would not come back. We also had many intimacy problems. One of the last things he said to me is that I "always want all that long, drawn-out stuff" as he I guess would prefer quickies or no sex at all. The residence was my home, which I had years before he married. We have no kids and no property together, so he literally was able to just walk away, which is what he did.

We were able to pack probably 98% of all items that would fit into his vehicle that day. 3 months ago, STBXH wanted his family heirlooms back ( few small ceramic items), and I was willing to pack them. However, in the most recent and final version of the settlement, he no longer wants them. We do not have any children together, we will not remain friends, and have actually already ceased all communication to his preference. So, the divorce settlement is the last form of communication we will have between us, ever. It is like he just went and crawled up in a hole to disappear. I have a few small documents that I must send to him. I feel the right thing to do is to send the heirlooms even though he is relinquishing them because they belonged to his family. I don't want them. Could anyone tell me why you think he suddenly gave up on the heirlooms? I find this (as everything regarding this marriage) very strange. I personally would have found more value in my heirlooms than in my own vehicle title.

Thouhts?