My divorce will be final on the 13th of this month. It’s been six 8 weeks since we separated and it’s almost done. 18 yrs together and 10 yrs married with a wonderful 11 yr old son. The last week of July I went to San Diego to visit my family with my son. Two days after I returned she dropped the bomb on me. “ We have grown apart, we are two different people, I need space to think.” I was devastated! She then turned cold, ice cold. Told me that I had to leave or she was leaving with my son. I was in shock with what she told me, so to keep the peace I left. She then admitted that she had butterflies for a random encounter at a public place and if she had butterflies for him it meant that she wasn’t in love with me anymore. Turns out the guy was a person that has been contracted by us for at least a year. At first she said there wasn’t anyone else involved but a few nights ago she called me and told me that it was him she had butterflies for and she has been seeing him and spending the night with him and that she plans to continue with him after the divorce. It makes sense why this process has been so quick, I know that she was frustrated with a few things in our life but we both were. She didn’t want to talk all of a sudden about the issues a few months back. What I can take away from this is that she liked him and in true fashion of shitty guys flirted back and took advantage of her vulnerability. She confided in him about our relationship and probably told her everything she wanted to hear. This guy is no winner, convicted felon, drug user but easy on the eyes I will admit that and a smooth talker. He probably told her to make the move to start pushing me out. From my perspective everything she was thinking about doing was validated by this guy and this was enough for her to file. So I’m here with a broken heart knowing full well that this scenario for her will end terribly. If he truly cared for her he would have let her grieve our marriages end and let her deal with the onslaught of emotions that comes with a divorce. His agenda won’t allow that. I get 50/50 custody with half of the property paid to me here soon. Nice looking girl, nice house in a good neighborhood what piece of trash like him could pass that up? I know that karma is real and it’s coming for them, you knowingly do bad to others and it gets paid back in full twice the amount. Still It doesn’t make me feel better, I’m heartbroken looking for a place to buy and no one to talk too.