Any suggestions? I'm 50M, she's 45F. Kids are almost early teens. She plans to tell them that it's my decision, that I want to leave, which is fine because it's true, but I want to make sure that they understand it's because I think that it is what is best for our family. In couples therapy, they stressed the best case scenario is happily married parents; the second best is happily divorced parents. I finally told her I thought it was time to ship our focus to the second best case scenario a few months ago. It's finally come to a head and I am looking for another place to live. She's pissed off, acting like this is a surprise. I'm over being angry and resentful about not being heard when I said I was unhappy for the past 10 years and I just want us to be friends, at least friendly, good co-parents.

Advice???