I’m Six weeks into the separation and I find out that she has been seeing another man. My very credible sources have seen the other guys vehicle at my house parked in the garage with her car parked behind so it could hide his truck. My gut instincts told me something wasn’t right but my love for her overrode my judgment. I know this man and I can’t blame him. It’s HER fault. I don’t know how long they have been together but we are not divorced yet . She filed for divorce the first week we separated and it left me feeling confused lost and angry. Again my instincts knew something wasn’t right but again my love for her got in the way of my logical thought process. Fellow redditors, if you suspect something and your instinct is telling you something LISTEN to it! Save yourself time and heartache. I now feel nothing for her, I don’t hate her like I’m supposed to but I see her now as common adulterer trash. My father God brought us together in marriage and she committed the act that will separate us in divorce. I don’t wish any ill will toward her but believe me when I say this, what goes around comes around and when it hits it hits hard and totally unexpected. I have been in counseling since the separation began between us so this newfound information isn’t weighing heavy on me as it supposed to. I started the gym a week into the separation and changed my diet and I have seen an improvement in my mood and body it has also helped with my depression. When I spend time with my son it is the highlight of my day! I get so excited when I get to see him that it makes my work day DRAG! For those that are reading this, it takes time to process your divorce, cry and let those emotions out. Don’t let it bring you down and keep you there. Believe me, I’m still trying to climb out of that pit. Stay busy, I run favors on the side when I’m off of my primary job and it affords me extra money for whatever I chose to do with it. Make friends and TALK to a counselor or therapist as long as they are a professional in that field, trust me it helps. It’s a long and hard process and a long road to take when your alone, but there is an end to that road. Find out what makes you happy whether it’s hobbies like reading or writing , outdoor activities whatever it is GO DO IT! The first and hardest step is to accept that your old life is gone, the one you love is not there any more and you have to close that chapter of your life and start a new one. It can be done but understand that your worst enemy through this process is your own thoughts and feelings. Make sure to seek help with a professional to get your own thoughts back on track and start looking at life through a positive lens again, your feelings will follow the same path shortly after. Whoever reads this you are not alone, you may feel alone but your not. You have to make those first steps to start the healing process and follow through with it. No one can do it for you. I’m available if you need to talk or to vent or if you just want to scream at someone over the phone, all you have to do is reach out. God loves you and know things do get better.