See my post history for my story. We just moved furniture into a “nesting” apartment 2 days ago. I made it clear I didn’t know how long I’d want the arrangement as she requested the separation and the intention to date. I said if I felt uncomfortable once she started bringing guys to the apartment, I reserved the right to call it off. Well, one day later she’s going out with friends again, but she wants to show them the apartment first. Something about her story just seemed off. I had restrained myself from snooping for months in the hopes of reconciliation and believing her when she said she wasn’t doing anything yet. However, I couldn’t resist when an opportunity to look at her messages appeared while she was out. Instead of being out with her friends, she was actually “breaking in” the new apartment with the guy she’s apparently been seeing for a while.

I feel like an ass. We had several talks about being respectful and honest about where we are, she reiterated only a day before she isn’t ready to call for a divorce. But it was all a setup so she could have a cheap sex pad. They’ve been sexting for days, meeting up other times, basically it shows it’s all been lies, probably even while we were in counseling.

Now I have to deal with it because hell if I want to stay in that apartment on my off weeks. We had an amicable way forward, but she’s gone and blown that up by being extremely disrespectful. She just had to wait a little longer and I could understand, but she couldn’t stop herself. I’m in NC so I’m stuck with a year of separation but at least I know what’s at the end now, divorce.