Married 15yrs, wife told me she didn’t love me months ago. Tried therapy and failed. Separate bedrooms for 5 months, new therapy to figure out real separation. During mediation she finally realizes that after all the help I gave her building her consulting business, she’s going to owe me child support and I technically own half the business. Now she’s pissed at me because I didn’t “ask for enough raises”! I’m already at the top of my pay band and already make in the 92nd percentile of US salaries. We have plenty of money, she just has way more than me and is mad at me for not keeping it even???

It’s like she expected the process to be painless, that 50/50 kids meant 50/50 money. But sorry, when you earn more than twice your spouse you’re going to owe them. It’d be the reverse if I hadn’t helped her start the damn business. Now she’s talks about trashing it and getting a regular job just so she doesn’t have to pay me. Of course that makes no sense. She’s really worried about having enough money and that’d be worse. She just wants to have plenty to support the carefree travel lifestyle she’s dreamed of leaving me for.

She’s not really a terrible person. I let her know she was being pretty ungrateful for all the time I spent watching kids and working while she went to school to learn the business. She apologized, but she’s still not happy about it. Sorry, but it’s not for me, the money is for the kids. She wants to leave, I’ll be kind, but I’m not giving away everything.