Just talked to my lawyer who said he will look into it but right now I am just furious. His PI was under the pretext that we were estranged (we weren't, we were fully DIVORCED) and he/she was assigned to follow me around and cyber-talk me.

I found out though one of my ex's casual friend. This casual friend and I went on a few dates and remained friends without my ex's knowledge. At the time we figured it just wasn't a good idea to date being that I was so freshly single but we've remained in contact as friends. He says he tolerates my ex because our kid's are often on the same sports teams and our kids play together.

This past weekend the two of them were together at a gathering and my ex was telling everyone there about what kind of "whore" I am. How I am really a "lesbian", how I "throw orgies at my place when the kids are staying with him", and lots of other just downright lies. I hesitate to even care except a lot of these people are parents of our kid's friends. He then admitted to a group of people about the PI and told them all about it. And surprise, surprise, HE LIED over and over about it all. Lie after lie. Slander???

I know a lot of them don't care and they will see it for what it is: just a bitter man. It's fairly common knowledge I left him and the reasons behind me leaving him. Him trying to spread lies is just hurtful, irritating, and makes me wonder what kind of impact it'll have on our kids. I also know that the best action on my part is no action.

What does concern me, however, is that he has pictures and even copies of my profiles (all since wiped and deleted) of me stating explicitly what I like (bisexual, non-monogamy). I am not ashamed of any of it. When I told him I had heard that he hired a PI to follow me, he threw it all at me. Pictures, dates, 'whoring around', etc. Half was true (I didn't tell him this) but I did suggested next time that he should find a better PI and I asked repeated if his PI could even spot me in a line up cause they weren't following the right person.

Then he played his card and let me know that he doesn't want HIS kids raised in this environment. First, there is NO environment! I have never, ever had anyone at our home while our kids are there. NONE. My 'whoring around' is (was, really) me going on dates like any normal single person. The profiles are likely the only thing to get me when I mention that I am "bisexual and open to non-monogamy" but that's it! He says he "has so much more" and that's why I turned this over to my lawyer but it's all so exhausting. I moved on the day our papers were signed, why can't he???

Sorry for the rant, I just really don't want to burden my friends with more of my drama. Thank you all.