The strain of mental health after a divorce is intense. My wife decided she wanted a divorce in less than 30 minutes, we’ve had one discussion about why the divorce was happening, and other than that she’s a brick wall. She started a smear campaign with her narrative, and her narrative is skewed, she minced words I had said, and my own struggles to create this picture of a monster that made her look like she had her life together. When in reality she let herself go, I was taking care of her, and her laziness outside of work was a drain to me because there was so much negativity in the air. She showed an alternate side to herself that did not back up the words she had said in our dating and married life. She turned people against me faster than she got divorce papers. I trusted her with finances, I trusted her words, and what I have left is nothing now. I’m picking up the pieces of how I feel about myself. Because I know her mind is unchangeable. I’m working through the process of trusting again, because everyone I have talked to has seen both sides, acknowledged both our wrongs, and said it was fixable. I feel like I was an emotional support animal to her, because now I find myself useless to her and the first excuse to get rid of me she took. I can see red flags now, as her mind was always changing, she was a narcissist, and victimized herself somehow in something that had nothing to do with her, and downplayed my mental health struggle in the past, and refused to acknowledge where I am at mentally now, which she had done before the divorce. She has a trend that every person who lives with her is “toxic” and I’m questioning that now. There were things I should have done, and things I should have done better. But I can say I at least fought for the marriage and didn’t give up and owned my faults. Who gives up after the first big issue that happens in a marriage? (No one cheated, as a heads up) I’m figuring out how to move on now. I’m figuring out how to approach singleness now. I’m figuring out how to approach setting myself up for success again. I’m figuring out how to love again, after loving someone who doesn’t know what true love looks like.