Hello,

Hopefully this is ok.

If this is the wrong place for this. I apologize.

I’m 38 (f) and been separated officially since April.

My ex is already talking to other women and was before our marriage ended. So I’m struggling with being ready to talk to other people myself or not.

I desire connection. I would love someone to talk to. But I was also in a toxic relationship for over 20 years and settled for way less than I deserve.

I want to hold out for the right man. I’m looking for the entire package. Not perfect by any means. But someone that compliments my energy. I refuse to settle.

I’ve been holding myself back, but what if I miss out on someone amazing because I’m afraid?

I’m also aware that being still legally married scares men off. My marriage was over long before it ended. So I’ve had time to grieve and work on myself. I’ve been doing this for the last 5 years. I’m ready when the time comes.

Can anyone here relate?

Am I a bad person for wanting to meet other men already? I feel so torn. But I’ve spent much of my life never feeling truly loved. Not exploring sexually. I’m just ready for new adventures and new healthy people to be in my life.

Anyway, sorry to babble! Ik done now. 🫣