About a month ago, i finally had a discussion with my husband about the fact that i am still wanting to be childfree even though he changed his mind halfway through our relationship. On top of this, I have other issues in our marriage that have led me to realize we just aren’t compatible. And I know we need to divorce so we can both find the happiness we dream of.

However, I’ve been trying to approach him about this and each time I get shut down before I can actually get my thoughts out. I try to pick his brain about the childfree stuff since that’s a huge deal to him, and all I get is “haven’t really thought about it” and “this isn’t something we have to address right now”

I am just drowning trying to figure out how to move forward. I feel like I am weighted down with the burden of this decision and not being able to address it. We still love each other. But we just don’t work. How do you tell someone you want a divorce?