We have had a marriage completely devoid of physical affection and battling for the masculine role since pretty much day one. She has never respected me or treated me like a man. We haven’t had sex in 8 months and before that it was 9 months. We’ve NEVER had frequent sex and any time we do have it, it sucks. Because it’s empty. There’s zero emotional connection or any real deep bond between us like there should be for two people in love with each other.

We have been married for 12 years and have 3 kids (11, 9, and 7). They will be devastated if we divorce, but I just am at the end of my rope. We’ve had countless, unproductive arguments about the immense dissatisfaction in our marriage over the last several years. We always apologize to each other for each other’s unhappiness, but nothing ever changes and we just keep going unhappily for the kids’ sakes.

She isn’t happy. I’m definitely not happy. Has anyone else’s marriage been this way and how did it go when you did divorce? Or should I just suck it up and stay?