This group has helped me a lot through my divorce journey, so I thought I’d share something positive that happened yesterday.

Separated for going on 3 years, divorced for 1.5. Like so many of you, I thought they were my forever person and the divorce was very devastating for me, particularly because they left me for someone else. I had to be hospitalized for a bit right after we separated. I’ve been working hard on myself and making a new life as a solo person. Took a new job, moved to a new city and state.

The last thing tying me to my ex was a car title. We decided to meet up yesterday at the dmv and take care of it. I was so nervous about seeing them again — the last time I saw them was when they picked me up from the hospital, and then left as I cried and begged them to stay.

Well, I was surprised that when I finally saw them again, it was like a spell was broken. I felt nothing for them. I didn’t hate them, love them, miss them. It was like dealing with any other person. I was able to be pleasant, detached, confident in dealing with them. I had no attraction for them at all anymore, but I think I could still sense them having some for me.

We took care of our business, exchanged pleasantries, I wished them well, and we parted ways. I felt so empowered knowing they hold no power over me anymore, that they’re still the same, and I’ve grown so much and have such a better life. I’m so happy I never have to see them again.

For all those still going through it, keep going. It will get better ❤️‍🩹