I (M) have been married to my wife for 9 years this year. We have two kids (4 and under 1). We've grown apart for some time and I don't feel that the love is there any more. There are a couple of reasons for it but it is clear to me that emotionally at least the marriage is dead. We don't really argue so it's not a bad environment. It's just emotionally cold and I need someone to be there for me which I don't have any more.

I moved to my wife's home country several years ago and thats where we have raised our family. I now seriously want to move to another country. I have discussed this and suggested doing it as a family but I am told no without any compromise.

I love my kids. We have different parenting styles but it doesn't mean either one is bad. She is a fantastic mother just not a good wife and I'd rather end it at that than being forced to continue together and hate each other so much and just argue.

The only factor that stops me is our children. If I left the country, it would be a huge strain on her to have two kids and a job. If I stay but we separate there is more flexibility although it would still be tough on her. Do I need to separate this thought out and she would need to deal with it however she can or do I need to take the pain and stick through? I don't know what to do but I don't want to spend the rest of my life trapped, unhappy and lonely.