My wife (soon to be ex wife) and I had our ups and down during our 3 years of marriage. We didn’t buy anything big or had kids (thank goodness) but the last few months were very rough and I felt unhappy, unfulfilled and alone. I wasn’t the best husband but I always tried to make things better and be better. I felt like I couldn’t do right. Nothing I did was ever good enough. We needed extra income? I went out and got another job (my day job pays decent but I didn’t make as much as she did)

we had an argument? I was the one that had to try and change. I started therapy to work on my issues and so did she but still nothing I did was enough for her. We eventually sat down and had the talk, we agreed we’d give it one more try and if it didn’t work we’d call it quits and go our separate ways. After that talk though, it felt like the end of something and something in my gut told me something was off. Fast forward a few days later she decides she wants to sit down again and talk about our marriage. I knew it was over, and had pre grieved. After we talked and decided that being married was doing us more harm than good, I did feel sad but fast forward a week and I am feeling fine. It has taken a bit to get used to not texting her, calling her or sending funny memes to her but I just don’t feel as sad anymore. Is it a bad thing?

I should add, it was a mutual thing and I don’t hold any I’ll feelings towards her and she doesn’t hold I’ll feelings towards me either.