I’m really struggling with whether it is time to stay married or time to leave. I 39m and my wife 40f have not had a good go of it for the last year. We did talk about an open relationship as a way to explore what we were missing (this is a terrible idea btw. Just don’t do it) even after I told her I did not want to be in a Open relationship I found out she was still having in appropriate messages with other men. This led to a giant where divorce was mentioned but I wanted to try and figure things out. 5 weeks later I found out when she was a little buzzed up she gave our neighbor a BJ. Now she claimed it was a drunken mistake and it only lasted like a minute before she realized what a mistake she was making. I said this was the end but ended up continuing to be the forgiving person because of my kids and all the financial down falls. I started counseling since and am trying to figure things out. She said she would do counseling herself but she has not started. The other night my son was playing a game on her phone and you could tell she had an un easiness about me eventually having her phone to play a game with him. All those feeling come flooding back of here we go again. I’m pretty sure she is talking to someone but am not a 100% sure if she is and what the context is. Our anniversary is this weekend and I’m really honestly not up for doing anything but also really don’t want to fully blow up my life before the holidays. I know I have not been a perfect husband I am and have been trying to work on myself but I just am not sure I can continue to put myself through this but also don’t want to continue to set myself up for a massive heart break. So I guess my question is when did you know enough is enough.