We have had the same convo 4 times over the past 3 years. I told him I was struggling so much it was threatening our marriage. Nothing happened the first 3 times. The 4th time, Mother's Day, I said I was done and all of a sudden he did a 180 doing all the things I wanted him to to before.

At first I was confused how he could flip this switch and be the guy I dated. I liked the changes. But deep down I know this is not his authentic self.

He had been making so much effort and it was lovely. I had told him I didn't want him to home any "false hope" and he insisted he didn't.

Today he was talking about certain chores around the house and was talking about one that would definitely take some time. I reminded him, "hey, we shouldn't invest much in long term projects. We need to talk about a timeline for selling the house and getting our own places."

After that, it was like I kicked a puppy. He looked deeply wounded and sad. He hasn't talked to me since. This should not be a surprise. Totally understandable. But I still feel badly.

This is just a rant. Thanks for indulging me.