We have been together for a long time. I've expressed my struggles in this relationship in writing and verbally multiple times for at least 3 years. We tried counseling. For all those years virtually nothing changed. I told him my intent to divorce and literally the next day he is the guy who he was at the beginning: kind, attentive, affectionate, etc. He expressed his deep desire to stay together and seems to be using every fiber of his being to address the issues I cited at my reasons for wanting to separate (lack of physical intimacy, lack of emotional intimacy, etc).

It's so wonderful to see this side of him again. But I know it can slip away. I guess I'm struggling to understand how it's possible that this change was a flick of the switch? Literally overnight!

I talk with my therapist on Tuesday but it's boggling my mind and I appreciate any insight into how he can do such a 180 on so many of these things immediately, if I'm being too impatient, etc. it tooK EVERY OUNCE of my strength to announce I want to begin separating and now I feel so ducking confused