I asked my STBXH for a divorce in January. Namely, because of years of verbal, emotional and sometimes physical abuse.

He's begged me to keep living with him until the one year separation is over (for the kids, so I can get a house nearby etc).

I agreed only on the condition that he stops being so mean, ugly and rude (yelling at me over every little thing, pushing me over a cell phone charger of his that I "took", slamming doors in my face, hanging up the phome when im mid sentance, constant passive aggressive comments, glaring at me constantly, etc) Bear in mind I've been as polite and small as humanly possible around him.

He agreed to being kind, but he's never stopped his bad behavior. He's only gotten worse.

But he says this behavior is fine because I hurt him because I'm divorcing him so he has license to treat me this way.

Is that right? I would think you should treat all humans with decency, even if they don't want to be with you romantically anymore.

To non initiating spouses: do you have the moral high ground to treat your ex like absolute shit because they're divorcing you? Even if you share children?