I (F42) finally got divorced and settled in my new house last year. My divorce was due to multiple things: chronic infidelity (on hi part), no respect of boundaries (specially sexual), no respect for other person (at one point he had posted my weight here in Reddit- I’ll have to find the post but it was hurtful), and a total disconnect in general. Im so happy that I was able to break the cycle and get out. I love my new house and the inner peace I feel.

Despite my divorce being so recent, I feel I’ve been single for a very long time (5 years) and really yearn for a connection with someone. I tried to open an account on a dating app and deleted it within the hour. Anytime I think of a relationship, I freeze or start crying. Reading about relationships in general makes me anxious. Has anyone gone through this?don’t get me wrong- part of me wants to find someone I can connect with but the other part is scared. I really don’t like one night stands- I need to have connection to open sexually and i yearn to have that intimacy with someone.

What worked for you?