I’ve been looking into the disorganised/fearful-avoidant style and I’ve noticed something about my early attractions.

I used to get loads of crushes during school and they used to develop into really big things I’d ruminate on. It would usually be people I didn’t consider ‘in my league’ or people who were a bit incompatible with me.

Anyways I would never make a move or anything and I would say that I wouldn’t date the ones I didn’t fit with…which in retrospect seems kinda avoidant? Like I was just happy in the sweet spot of getting some very minimal attention and pining over them but never soo g anything about it?

What was others experiences and is this relatable? very curious!