Hi, I am struggling a lot understanding my attachment style. Being in a relationship with someone secure has been wonderful but it also has its moments when I am left feeling like my needs are not met? And i also realise its a lot given that mostly when things are smooth running i lean towards anxious attachement and when there are conflicts, it triggers avoidant behaviour that ultimately leads to severe emotional disregulation.

In the light of a recent cheating experience in my relationship, its been doubly hard to rebuilt trust, regulate emotions - especially my need for reassurance and time that has heightened . This is difficult for the partner who is a secure type and is unable to fulfill my very high expectations right now. I am really at a loss what to do to feel some sanity.... i am not able to work, talk to anyone else, eat or sleep. I just want constant reassurances which i also know is wrong and too much to expect and too much for anyone to give no matter what the situation.

I am just looking for something, anything that can help at this point.